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Trust takes guts. Human’s hurt humans, but not because humans are naturally mean. It is because we remember enough in our past to learn from situations that hurt us. It is this learning process that sets us up to be smart enough not to touch a hot coal in the barbeque again.

Remembering past circumstances then changing your behavior to improve your life is a good thing. Remembering too much is not a good thing. It is this balance between remembering to protect yourself and forgetting and going on that creates or destroys trust. Going on without resentment takes courage.

Trust takes guts because it means placing yourself in a position where you could get hurt again. It means giving the next woman in your life the right NOT to be like the last one that hurt you. Just because your boss has personality traits like your dad, does not mean that he is your dad. Situations like this are scary. There is a way out of this dilemma.

Each event in life that hurts you is an individual event, not a railroad train with a thousand cars. Every time you get hurt, you learn. If you follow the steps to honestly look at the situation that hurt you, it becomes apparent that there was a reason for the end result. You have the power to alter the behaviors that caused the hurt and go on without a train load of duplicate situations repeating the same disaster.

If you look deeply enough at the cause and effect of a painful circumstance, most often you will find it was nobody’s fault and it was everybody’s fault. In other words, fault does not come into play. Circumstances that create fear create defensive behaviors that are not intentional. Open minded enough, you see that people act to protect themselves from pain.

Observing without fear, clarity of thought can take over. Trust resumes. You are smarter for the wear and more trusting. You know that the lesson was worth the pain. Trusting creates wisdom. Wisdom removes fear. In the presence of courage, getting hurt disappears.